It was with great anguish and dismay that I read in our local paper this morning, that another woman had been stalked and killed by her ex-boyfriend. Her three young children are left alone, without their mother's love to sustain them. The killer had at one time been her live-in boyfriend. After he became progressively verbally and physically abusive, she attempted to have him thrown out. Police had been summoned to the residence at least three times because of loud domestic confrontations. She and her children were eventually removed from the house with police protection. As usual, the male was served with a restraining order. He spent a short period of time in jail but was freed when he posted $1,000 bond. Even though he had repeatedly threatened to kill her, he was freed. Then, this morning he confronted her on the school bus which she drove. Once on the bus he stabbed her until she was dead. Fortunately it was at the beginning of her morning route and there were no children on the bus to witness this brutal attack.
Restraining orders have historically done nothing to prevent such domestic attacks. Therefore, I am proposing some alternative measures which could possibly help:
1. If the police have been summoned
three times, the abuser should
be required to wear an ankle
bracelet for a minimum of one
year.This would allow the police
to monitor his movement and to
determine if he was complying
with the provisions of the restraining
2. The abused female should be encourage (or required) by police to acquire a small hand gun for her personal defense. She should be trained how to use it and be instructed were to store it safely in her house. If she lacks funds, money should be made available to her through organizations. If
she objects to a gun, perhaps
a guard dog could be made available
through the Humane Society
3. She should be encouraged to obtain a home security system. This was a working mother and she possibly had some funds to assist in purchasing a home security system. If
she is lacking funds, they
should be made available to
her through caring local organizations.
4. Her employer
should always be alerted for
this potential attack. They
would need to have the abusers
name and hopefully a photo
so that he can be denied job
access. It is a national tragedy
that these attacks continue
in such high numbers. The restraining
order has proved to be a useless
piece of paper.
I hope these suggestions
are of some merit to you.