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I'm so sorry to hear about
what happened to you---throughout
your childhood and this past
weekend. I'm sorry, too, to
hear the unnecessary guilt and
blame in your note. You are
blaming yourself for something
that you had no control over.
Your brain is connected to your
heart and soul--if it weren't,
you wouldn't be writing a letter
expressing these feelings nor
would you be able to even make
this connection in the first
place. The problem is that at
an early age it sounds like
neither your heart nor soul
nor brain were given the attention
and respect that they needed
and deserved from your mother--that
is not to say that there wasn't
someone else giving that to
you, which I hope there was.
The common experience of women
who are abused as children--is
that they go on to be abused,
because we don't learn to value
ourselves. The common experience
of men who are abused as children--is
that they go on to abuse, because
they are given enough so-called
"power" and therefore want to
take this power away from others
the way it was taken away from
them.
I hope that you value yourself
enough--despite what your mother
said and did--to know that you
don't deserve to be treated
this way again.
You might want to contact
RAINN
for further guidance and information.
Sorry I couldn't be of more
comfort or assistance--good
luck.
—Amy
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