Hi, I'm a single mother of a ten year old daughter. I lost my son 3 years ago and have fallen into a rut. I am $40,000 in debt and have no way of getting this caught up. The jobs I am able to get only pay enough to survive.

I've come to the realization that the only way I'm ever going to get anywhere with my life is by going back to college. I'm trying to find some grants out there to help me out and get me started back to school, but I am getting nowhere. I really need some help and advice on where I begin.

It would be greatly appreciated if you could give me any tips on this.

Sincerely,

Dejah

Dear Dejah,

Through Ask Amy I have heard from so many women who are in situations similar to yours: returning students or new students of a nontraditional age, who can't find resources for school. In fact, when people ask me about the most pressing issues within feminism, I usually list this one, and divorce.

I haven't discovered any groups that specifically can help you. Many schools have their own internal programs for someone like you. For instance, Smith College has a grant for older students return, I think it's the Ada Comstock Scholars. Also Barnard College has Centennial Scholars. Perhaps you can reach out to a school near you and see what they have to offer. I certainly wish I had better resources for you. I hope you find them.

Also, I am so sorry to hear about your son. Your tenacity should be rewarded, I hope it is.

Thanks, -- Amy