*This
piece was originally published in The
Nation, December 21, 1998
In
Defense of Monica
by
Amelia Richards and Jennifer Baumgardner
Pundits across the political spectrum have
assumed that there are two ways for feminist-minded
people to view Monica Lewinsky: As a careerist
Delilah (who exposed the President to humiliation)
or as a victim (to whom the President exposed
himself). As feminists and activists committed
to fighting for the rights of young women,
we want to raise our voices not to decry
or condescend to her but to support her
in the name of feminism.
When the Lewinsky story broke eleven months
ago, we did not know the former White House
intern and initially learned only scant
details of her alleged tryst with President
Clinton. Now, she could be our best girlfriend.
We know her wardrobe down to her undies,
her vacillating aspirations and the intimate
details of her sex life. We also know more
than enough explicit play-by-play (more
than any best girlfriend would reveal) about
her relationship with the President. But
then none of our best girlfriends have been
threatened with imprisonment or had her
mother subpoenaed and threatened with the
slammer if such details were not laid out
before the world. With so much information,
we feel comfortable coming out in support
of Lewinsky despite never having met her.
As far as classic feminist concerns go,
Lewinsky has been exploited - but not in
the way some of her detractors suggest.
Linda Tripp violated her privacy and trust,
and she has been ridiculed by the media
and by the American people. The independent
counsel and FBI agents ambushed her for
an eleven-hour intimidation ritual, with
nary a pause when she said she wanted to
call her lawyer (as if constitutional rights
don’t extend to people who don’t know precisely
what their rights are). Then she was served
up most salaciously by Kenneth Starr in
his report - now for sale in book form.
Although she will soon have her own book
in the stores, one can’t argue that her
literary relationship with Starr is consensual.
The Barbara Walters interview, scheduled
for broadcast early next year, will mark
the first time Monica speaks for herself,
at least without the threat of jailtime
hanging over her head. Many people don’t
agree with the choice Lewinsky made to have
an affair with the President of the United
States, a decision that left her subject
to public humiliation. Yet the point is
not that we think her choice was stupid
or her motives delusional but that the relationship
was consensual. At the root of feminism
is the right to make our own choices, provided
our actions don’t limit or infringe upon
the options of other people. Take abortion:
While we would not coerce any woman into
having one, we also wouldn’t deny that alternative
to someone else. And with freedom comes
the possibility that we will make bad choices.
If Monica Lewinsky were in fact a best girlfriend,
it would be our responsibility as friends
to offer an opinion. Maybe you shouldn’t
be having an affair with a married man;
maybe, given his age and job as leader of
the most powerful nation on earth, he isn’t
going to be available as often as you need
him to be; maybe you shouldn’t be threatening
him if he doesn’t aid in your future career;
and maybe you should have had that dress
dry-cleaned. However, we don’t need to defend
Lewinsky’s decisions or justify her love
to support her rights in the name of the
rights of all young women. We want the right
to be sexually active without the presumption
that we were used or duped. We want the
right to determine our own choices based
on our own morality.
Young people should be particularly empathetic
with Lewinsky. We know what it’s like not
to be listened to and to have our ideas
dismissed. As a constituency, we fight to
be heard by our parents, our teachers and
our politicians. In our careers we struggle
to do more than operate the photocopier,
and in our personal lives we strive to live
according to our own moral voice and not
that of others. We are also familiar with
the linking of sex, lies and tapes. We are
a generation whose parents openly had affairs,
who have been lied to by Reagan and Bush,
and for whom a media-delivered barrage of
sex and scandal has been a constant.
Tossed into this national peepshow, the
figure of Monica Lewinsky has taken on the
singularity of the very famous. But in some
respects her experience as a young woman
was not that weird. Who hasn't dated someone
less than in love with you, or what the
experts call "emotionally unavailable"?
We feminists should take care not to put
words in Lewinsky’s mouth: She has not said
that Clinton "victimized" her nor that it
was a power difference that forced her to
express her crush and flash her thong. She
has said that she had an affair with the
President, and that she initiated and did
her best to prolong this affair. The effect
of his presidential authority was not coercive
but seductive - the aphrodisiac of power.
Whatever we think of this, if feminists
hold Lewinsky up as a violated naif, then
we don't believe that an adult woman can
take responsibility for her own desires
and actions. In other words, we will have
gone a long way back, baby. Feminists should
support Monica Lewinsky not as a victim
of a rapacious man but as a young woman
with a libido of her own.
Amelia Richards, a contributing editor to
Ms.
Magazine, a co-founder of the Third
Wave Foundation, and writer of the column
Ask
Amy, and Jennifer Baumgardner, a writer
and editor, co-wrote the book Manifesta,
(Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2000).
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